Today, I felt like talking about something else while I am in Thailand. Since things that happen to me in Thailand rarely happens to me in Japan and never in the U.S..

As I was walking by promising my good friend Deepak to get some DVD movies, a beautiful girl grabbed my arms began talking about my shoes. I was pretty puzzled, because why you a beautiful girl grab my arms and start talking about my shoes? Knowing that I am not beautiful myself. Maybe if I put some make up on, I might be.

Yes, I admit I was a bit frightened. I don't get a beautiful stranger just grab my arms and ask me weird questions. About my shoes? Nationality? My English? I guess she figured out that I am not Thai. She also didn't expect me to be Japanese either. When I told her I am from Japan, she then asked me if I wanted to go to her uncle's place and have lunch. Remember, this is a complete stranger. I had no idea what she was thinking. Why would a beautiful girl just grab my arms then later invites me to her uncle's house. She then introduce herself as Ann. I have a lot of weird and interesting stories coming from many girls named Ann. So I was laughing when she told me her name.

It didn't matter, because I really wanted to go to Burger King real bad. As most of you know, Burger King no longer exist in Japan, because they went out of business. To me this looked like an ambush:
1) a beautiful grabbed my arm and started a converstation
2) invited me to her uncle's house for lunch

She gave me her mobile number because she seemed pretty desperate to talk to me. After having my lunch at Burger King, I was curious why she was acting so desperate around me. Out of curiosity, I called her and asked why she wanted from me.

So here was her story, she actually got a singing job in Tokyo, but knew absolutely nothing about Japan. Here was her details. She is a 20 year old Filiipino girl who is currently living with her uncle in Bangkok. Her uncle is married to a Thai wife. Anyway, to make this whole story short, she showed me a contract which was written in Japanese which was a job offer for her and her friend to sing in Japan. She is a singer and her friend is a drummer. Something sounded familiar about this, months ago, I recently met a Harvard grad student at Deepak's restaurant and she was involved in a project which was against human trafficing in Japan. How Japanese Yakuza used their dirty tactics by telling young and beautiful SE Asian women to either sing, model or act in Japan. I remember reading her project website. It sounded really similar to the tactics I read from that website. So I asked the following:
1) found the job ad in a website
2) she and her friend e-mailed her picture to the job ad, because they asked for it. Which is a bit odd, because they never asked her to send a singing demo, but she was hired.
3) they asked for her body measurements. Why do they need body measurements for her singing ability?

It was more than enough to convince me that she is being fished into human trafficking to Japan. So I had to be the asshole to tell her that this job is most likely too good to be true. Chances are, she and her friend are being lured into human trafficking. She showed me a picture of her friend and she looked very very good. I hated to be the asshole giving her the bad news, but I told her if she is serious about this job do the following:
1) Never give her passport to her boss
2) Make sure she has a work visa before she lands on Japanese soil.
3) Have the contract in English, because when I read her Japanese contract, it was obvious that it was against her own safety if she sign it.

In other word, I had a pretty weird day. Now I am waiting for another friend named Ann to pick me up, I knew this Ann back when she used to work at the Thai restaurant in Ginza. Me with all the Anns.... Only in Thailand where weird things have happened to me.

It got weirder when I met my friend from Japan out of the blue. He wanted me to show him around Bangkok.

I recently read an interesting blog about the dating scene in Bangkok and I found it really fascinating to read.

According to this one guy who named himself "Bonafide":
During my 7 months here, dating has been for a lesser of a word - interesting. From early on, I've been pretty aware of the superficial nature in which the dateewess are judged. Women desperately want to grab a hold of a guy of high pedigree at any costs. Guys seem to benefit the most in the whole dating game, because from what I deduced decent guys are hard to find here ¼ are gay, ¼ are monks, ¼ look like a bus hit them. Hence, it's common for an average looking Thai guy to have about 2 or 3 girlfriends.

If that is true I can understand why people like Tom (who is Thai), treats all women like prostitutes. Tom is not gay, nor is he a monk, or had a bus hit him (in other words, a "dork") In Thailand, guys are extremely open about their homosexuality. I met many guys which in Thailand are called, "Lady Man" and even visited a gay bar in Pat Pong. They were nice people and as long as they don't hit on me, I am totally cool about their sexuality or transvestite appearance.

Most decent or average Thai men, will most likely take advantage of having multiple girlfriends. Just like Tom, and take women for granted. Tom, for example can not survive without playing with prostitutes. Most of his female friends in Thailand are prostitutes.

Now I described the male point of view in dating scene in Thailand. I actually got to learn about the dating scene in the female's point of view in Thailand.

2 years ago, I met this Thai girl who worked at a Thai restaurant in Japan. I eventually became friends with her and visited her when she moved back to Bangkok. Most of you know my usual visit to Bangkok such as getting DVD movies, softwares, and visiting the beautiful sceneries in Bangkok (Temple & Shrines) :)

Since I no longer became friends and associated with Tom, I decided to give the former Thai waitress a call. It wouldn't hurt to say "Hi" or have a friend to hang around with, because I can't go shopping all day long, and the Temples & Shrines don't open until 4pm.

What I found out about her is that she wasn't much of a good tour guide. Since she does not do much sight seeing in Bangkok, and works all day long not having much social life. There are many other stories about her, but I need to hurry up and get to the point.

As time went by, I guess she began to like me more than just a friend to hang around with. She began asking me questions about my personal life such as, "whether or not I have a girlfriend in Japan and whether or not I like Thai girls" Stuff like that.

I guess as "Bonafide" would mention in his blog, "Women desperately want to grab a hold of a guy of high pedigree at any costs. Guys seem to benefit the most in the whole dating game, because from what I deduced decent guys are hard to find here ¼ are gay, ¼ are monks, ¼ look like a bus hit them. "

Don't get me wrong, this girl is extremely cute with a very charming personality. I assumed that someone like her would already have a boyfriend. Well, at least if she was living in America she would. Since she asked me about my personal life, I decided to ask about hers. She told me how she hated Thai men and her description of Thai men is the exact description of Tom. The funny thing is, they never met.

What I find so extremely weird is the fact that she never hang out with a non-gay guy or non-weird guy before. When I 1st took her to go see a movie, she told me it was her 1st time for her to watch a movie with a guy. She does have quite a few gay friends, but she doesn't seem to have any guy friends who are not gay or F-ed up.

One day, I had some spare time so I visited her at work in Bangkok. This one receptionist began flirting to me, then I saw her get really upset at the receptionist. So now reading that blog from "Bonafide" I can understand his comment on "Women desperately want to grab a hold of a guy of high pedigree at any costs."

There was a county fair in Bangkok and she introduced me to her female friends, she asked me if I know any of my foreign non-Thai friends who might be interested in meeting Thai women. I guess that other comment where "Bonafide" mentioned, "because from what I deduced decent guys are hard to find here ¼ are gay, ¼ are monks, ¼ look like a bus hit them. "

When I thought ICU being considered as paradise (University which had 70% female to 30% mail ratio), Thailand would be a good place for a dating scene if you are a guy...

No wonder Tom take women for granted....